I am. Lives. I'm smiling. I am glad that spring is fast approaching, and in my head there is an irresistible desire for warmth, enchanting happiness and making plans. More and more often I feel that spring is almost here and it surrounds me with its energy and nice emotions. I am waiting for the smell of mowed grass, blooming flowers and lark messengers. Mmmmm 🙂 I dreamed up for a while… but I'm coming back 🙂
I have the impression that I have not been here for a long time ... Maybe during this moment of absence I lost the right to be in this place ... the right to vote, to use the warmth and closeness here ?! Well, it's just my safe haven. A private backyard where I can allow myself to be reborn from lost hopes and a bit of stimulation (only the positive one, of course) to look at the world and reality again.
Is not it?! In the end, I am at home, in my carefully woven of sentences, where no one is angry with me, judges me, does not idealize ... and in moments like this, he simply listens to me, completely selflessly. ...
My thoughts are not accidental. Recently, I have spent a lot of time observing people and interpersonal relationships. I notice the smallest and seemingly insignificant human impulses in trivial and more important matters. I was intrigued by the reactions of others in the face of the adopted order and their transformations over the years.
Or otherwise ... Thanks to my observations, for the first time in my life I started to verify the meaning of the word "friend". Until now, I was able to accept the fact that each of us develops and matures, but with time, it became more and more difficult for me to understand the reasons for these changes.
Who is a FRIEND for you? I am not asking for definitions, because how many people are there so many phrases. I am asking about the importance of true friendship. It is obvious that people come and go, pass, disappear, die ... but there is always someone among them who stays and becomes the most important truth? Someone you trust, someone you can count on; who will help you in your time of need, without judging whether you deserve such a fate or not. We always get to know at least one person in life who feels comfortable with us and allows himself to be completely uncomfortable in our company, but gives you the opportunity to be yourself freely and individually.
Have you noticed how often throughout our lives our values become distorted? They lose themselves, which makes it difficult to distinguish between kind and soulless people; enemy from a friend or honesty from sarcasm. During my earthly journey I met thousands of people ... colleagues, friends of friends ... I met a lot of wonderful people and many simply unpleasant. From year to year, some moved away, and new ones appeared in their place. Not all are lost ... many are with me to this day, which is perfect proof that you can be very close to someone, no matter how incredibly far apart we live. These are people who have walked a long time with me, know me and can read all my signs… what I hide deeply, what I feel, how I think, what I want. They can put me upright, give me advice when I ask for it (even if it turns out to be a mere criticism).
For me, a friend is a person who knows everything about me, yet still likes me. She doesn't stop believing in me, even when I have lost my faith myself. This is someone who understands me the moment I cease to embrace everything with my mind. Who does not judge and respects my every choice. He is with me, not only in poverty and sorrow, but also in prosperity and joy. A true friend hears what I say ... but he also sees what I cannot say. And it never disappears when he gets bored. A devoted companion is one who says good things about us, behind our backs, and bad things to our face - never the other way around. It is open and there is no need to hide anything from you. He is a man who adores you for who you are, not who you are. Not because of how much you have, but because of what values you live by. I could go on and on, but the context will remain the same….
I know wonderful people. Really… but… Until now, I hadn't been aware, didn't know, that in the last few years, I've been so alone. I didn't notice it because I was focusing too much on gaining people's approval and trust. I was looking for acceptance and understanding. Unfortunately, I did not pay attention to the fact that all this time, I was only gasping for air. I focused on being attached to people, meeting their expectations… instead of just being really myself. When I look at it all from a different perspective now, I can see how little I understood. People who consider themselves mature play with others like puppets. Those who ensured closeness - they run away where the pepper grows (thus taking care to be wronged by us).
My lovely friend (who lives in a distant land of the eternal sun) recently told me a very important thing that I have not been able to forget since then: “Don't chase someone who knows where to find you ... even if it is a moral duty. If someone moves away from you, let them go and forget them. Because if you have something important to offer, you don't have to ask anyone to stay and appreciate it. "
It's true ... We can't feel bad about breaking a bond, losing a loved one. I know… I understand that sometimes it's not that simple. It is not easy to accept the fact that someone can throw you out of your life despite having lived so much together. Instead, I believe it is important to realize that if the other person does not want you to participate in the rest of their life, then in fact you do not need it either. And the regret and pain you feel at the moment is nothing more than a momentary sense of longing for what may have once existed ... but today is gone.
Mario Quintana wrote: "The fun is not in chasing the butterfly, but in taking care of your garden so that the butterflies will come to you on their own."
So take care of your garden joyfully, instead of waiting for someone to bring and plant flowers in it. Share what you have inside with people who really need you close to each other because it's the best way to be friends. Cultivate relationships that are truly worthwhile and free yourself from the past.
And I wish you this !!! True friends forever, not for a while. Those who will give you complete freedom in being yourself and will be with you always, despite and against you.
PS Thank you to all the fantastic people in my life. As the saying goes? "You choose your friends for yourself, but the real ones are chosen by time."
See the interview in Polonia Radio Wataha
https://fb.watch/4A7CkJ3PgR/
