How to be a good father from a distance
The first step is to realize the importance of the father in the lives of children. Usually a lot of time is spent talking about the mother's role, which is to care for the baby and give him unconditional love.
This does not mean, however, that the father is less important. On the contrary, it is a determinant of what is appropriate and masculine for children, especially boys. It is the father who teaches and encourages children to be responsible testing the limits.
Children raised without a father have worse outcomes at school and later in adult life. They are more likely to use drugs, spend time in front of the computer and have difficulties establishing relationships and later building happy families.
The key to becoming good father, despite the distance separating you from your children, the contact is full of warmth and love. Sometimes it seems difficult: general clutter and a multitude of responsibilities, as well as - paradoxically - longing, stand in the way of success.
Almost everyone working for abroad, dad feels the lack families suffer severely and sometimes it is easier to isolate yourself than to devote time to the necessary conversations for children. Especially since they sometimes cause fathers to feel loneliness and even remorse.
Returning home, working fathers are torn between the desire to spend quality time with their family, the feeling that they need to introduce some discipline into their lives, and the pressure stuffthat need to be done. From screwing in a light bulb to raising children.
To be a good dad in this situation, you need to find the time and strength to call each of your parents regularly their children. This is how you send them a message:
“Even though I'm always far away you can count on me.”
"You are important to me."
"I want to be present in your life."
It is worth reminding children that:
"I like spending time with you and I'm looking forward to it."
"I hear you are trying very hard and I am proud of you."
"Thank you for what you are doing and for helping my mother."
Don't be afraid to tell your baby:
"I'm sorry I can't be like this right now to help you."
"I trust you."
"What do you think about it?"
A good ally in building relationships is your mother - you also need to take care of her, but more about that in next installment.
